Childless in Albuquerque

Yesterday I drove down to Albuquerque for the Christian Association of Parent Educators (CAPE) annual convention. Last night some of the other Santa Fe homeschooling moms and I went to dinner, and when the hostess asked, “Do you need any children’s menus?” I can’t tell you the euphoria I felt saying, “No!”

Isn’t that awful? I love my children, and of course miss them now when I’m away from them, but eating with them in restaurants is just so much work, and it felt so, so good to be able to have a meal with friends and know that the only person whose food consumption and table manners I had to be concerned with were my own.

Motherhood. It makes you appreciate the little things

Comments 7

  1. Dan wrote:

    I think you might enjoy this, its about another mom’s reaction to a response to a similar blog (actually twitter I think) post.

    http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/

    Posted 17 Apr 2009 at 3:18 pm
  2. JT wrote:

    I can see where you are coming from and there is nothing wrong with being happy to be alone for a bit. Penolope (in the blog linked by Dan) seems quite different.

    For a woman to say that she is not meant to be a stay-at-home mother just doesn’t sound right. Not being able to be one for financial reasons is another matter. I think I understood where she was coming from (as much as a man can, anyway) and the hate mail was a little extreme but I – my opinion only – can’t help but think less of a woman who says that. It is kind of like saying “My internal programming isn’t right”.

    I was not aware, as I am new to this blog, that you home schooled your kids. Though I would be concerned about its effect on their social skills, I think that is a hell of a thing to do and requires dedication and patience that few people possess. Of course, I hope and assume that you are educated enough to fulfill that duty.

    My own wife could not do it, though I wish she could and we are very careful about day care and teachers now. We had, until last year, a Serbian immigrant nanny/housekeeper who was wonderful and whom we trusted completely with our two kids (3 & 7). Then last year I was at a bookstore with my, then 6-year-old, son Aristotle and I saw someone reading the book Black Lamb and Grey Falcon by Rebecca West (I highly recommend it) and we struck up a nice conversation. I asked her why she was reading the book and she told me she was Croatian by descent and suddenly Aristotle starting ranting about how the Croats were as good as Nazis and should be exterminated (he screwed up the word, but we knew what he was saying) and he went on and on and started cursing them and then told her to “F-off you Croatian Bitch!” We do not curse in our home or speak ill of anyone (including Native Americans) and I knew that he couldn’t possibly know what he was saying and, after some investigation, I found out that this Serbian bitch was feeding him twisted, though possibly based in some fact, lies and views that I didn’t want him to have. I am only sorry that I let him go on so long at the bookstore but I was stupefied. You are much better taking care of your kids yourself.

    Posted 17 Apr 2009 at 6:38 pm
  3. Brigette Russell wrote:

    Dan, the difference between what I wrote and what Penelope Trunk wrote is that I am home with my kids all day every day, week in, week out, year in, year out, and I left town for a 2-day getaway without them, while she works, has her kids in school and has a nanny for when they get out of school, and even a couple of days on her own with the kids was just about more than she could take.

    JT, my educational b/g can be found on my “About” page, and ought to reassure you about my children’s academic preparation, if not about their socialization.

    Posted 18 Apr 2009 at 2:02 am
  4. Pot War wrote:

    This is exactly why New Mexico needs a Dept of Hispanic Affairs. Chicanos don’t have the luxury of sitting at home on their chalupas and homeschooling their kids. Only gringos can get away with that. Maybe I’m just jealous that I didn’t get to stay home with my mom (God rest her beautiful soul) and play whack the pinata every day with her.

    Posted 18 Apr 2009 at 2:19 am
  5. Brigette Russell wrote:

    I hate to deflate your rhetorical pinata, Senor PW, but I know some Hispanic ladies who homeschool their kids.

    Posted 18 Apr 2009 at 3:26 am
  6. Pot War wrote:

    They’re probably Mormons. And Mormon Hispanics aren’t real Hispanics. All Mormons are white, end of debate!

    Posted 18 Apr 2009 at 3:33 am
  7. whatamess wrote:

    I am a hispanic that homeschools because I do want to instill moral values in my child that the public schools do not…plus, most public schools are horrendous and most kids nowadays have no manners or consideration for the elderly, etc…

    With that said, follow me on twitter…
    HispHomeschool…I twitter about both Hispanic heritage, as well as general homeschooling laws, suggestions, fun stuff, homeschool days, etc…

    Posted 28 Jun 2009 at 6:03 am

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